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Originally Posted by smartiesparty
Now I am scared of going to any doc and scared to cry uncontrollably in front of them...it is such a deep feeling of shame. But I thank you for your kind support..
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Hi smartiesparty
You know I'd say that you have a lot more strength than you're giving yourself credit for.........might be really hard (sometimes impossible) to feel it

But you made it to not
one, not
two, but
three specialists
and the dentist!!!
Now try telling me that didn't take
massive strength!!!!

AND you've come here to tell us about it!!!!
Believe me, you've probably got
a lot more strength than you think!!!
And remember...........going to a doc...........
you are in control. If you need to you can walk out at
any single point in the appointment, with
any excuse you want

But if you can keep a real focus on why you're there, even prepare and write notes beforehand...........and you can have "time out" in the appointment by taking a little time to check them out...........inwardly taking a deep breathe.
Create a pause if you're stuck for words or anxious by slowly repeating what they've said back to you too if you need.
And maybe a few mindfulness or grounding techniques could help too...........
And let's hit the worst case scenario............
if you were to cry...........well absolutely
nothing to be ashamed of

Says you've got feelings and you find some situations difficult..........that
doesn't make you any lesser person in any way, shape or form!!!
And perhaps prepare something to say afterwards
if it were to happen to help move the situation on a bit if you think that may help??
But keep on posting, hey??

I'd say you may well get some great support with that on here, you don't have to do this alone
Alison