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Old Jul 28, 2016, 03:33 PM
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Originally Posted by smartiesparty View Post
Now I am scared of going to any doc and scared to cry uncontrollably in front of them...it is such a deep feeling of shame. But I thank you for your kind support..
Hi smartiesparty

You know I'd say that you have a lot more strength than you're giving yourself credit for.........might be really hard (sometimes impossible) to feel it
But you made it to not one, not two, but three specialists and the dentist!!!
Now try telling me that didn't take massive strength!!!!
AND you've come here to tell us about it!!!!
Believe me, you've probably got a lot more strength than you think!!!

And remember...........going to a doc...........you are in control. If you need to you can walk out at any single point in the appointment, with any excuse you want
But if you can keep a real focus on why you're there, even prepare and write notes beforehand...........and you can have "time out" in the appointment by taking a little time to check them out...........inwardly taking a deep breathe.
Create a pause if you're stuck for words or anxious by slowly repeating what they've said back to you too if you need.
And maybe a few mindfulness or grounding techniques could help too...........

And let's hit the worst case scenario............if you were to cry...........well absolutely nothing to be ashamed of
Says you've got feelings and you find some situations difficult..........that doesn't make you any lesser person in any way, shape or form!!!
And perhaps prepare something to say afterwards if it were to happen to help move the situation on a bit if you think that may help??

But keep on posting, hey??
I'd say you may well get some great support with that on here, you don't have to do this alone

Alison