After I find out if the T has the right training, I simply start by telling them my story (parts of it). I give them a few sessions to see if our relationship will work out. I think the biggest things I look for are if they have the ability to take care of me and if they "click" with me. Just because you see a T does not mean you have to keep seeing them. You don't have to stick with a T if it does not feel right for you. Its like test driving a car.