Leomama,

I also have a partner with Aspergers. We've been together for almost 2 years. He is also not officially diagnosed as it would have destroyed his career and any hope of having one in the future. I understand what you were going for with this thread. What helped me was reading the articles on Autism/Aspergers on this site and periodically reading this forum.

I don't know if my experiences can help you or not, but feel free to PM me if you want someone to talk to that would relate to you in this manner.