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Originally Posted by lacerta
I can't tolerate being with my mom and her husband (hate the word "stepfather" as I don't feel that man anything close to me) more than 2 days. After that it gets too intimidating. I can feel that he can't stand me and even less my kids as well. Last year we spent a week together and it ended with serious insults. Now I learned to limit the time together to keep my sanity. Maybe that works for you as well.
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Yes, we have learned over the last 20 years to limit our visits as well, and to time some of them for when he'll be out of town, overlapping for just a day or two. Our whole family on my mom's side gets together for Thanksgiving every other year (8 of us, not counting him and my mom - 5 my generation, siblings/spouses, and 3 kids). He deliberately doesn't come because it's too much for him. We're all working on solutions that will allow us to not tread too much on each other, but it seems that mostly that means limiting his exposure to us. Doesn't make me feel awesome - makes me feel like a pariah, as if I needed another reason.