My T told me one week as I was leaving the session to "think about" humiliation. As I was thinking that week, I got humiliated by a boss :-) and that led to a breakthrough about anger. So, I'm all excited and telling my T all about my week and we finish the session and as I'm leaving she says, "This week, why not think about 'disappointment'?" and I was startled and instantly asked, "Does this mean I'll spend the week being disappointed??!!" and we both laughed. Sure enough, my husband disappointed me a couple times and I learned what disappointment was to me and where I'd "learned" to expect certain things (that may/may not be true in a current situation so one sets one's self up for disappointment with out-of-date/wrong person expectations!). It was uncomfortable but awesome learning.
Pick a single emotion and "look" for it during the week and you'll have plenty of interesting things to tell your T and discuss.
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"Never give a sword to a man who can't dance." ~Confucius
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