Sometimes we have to understand that things are what they are at that time....nothing more in the future......nothing less at the time. We can't control how people are going to act towards us in the future...whether it's their illness or whether it's how they are reacting to something they precieve that we did. Sometimes relationships end without any explaination. It hurts, but we have to go on...there is nothing we can do & it sure isn't something we can FORCE to be the way we want it to be. That is just a fact of life...reality...or what ever you choose to call it

I grew up with one best girlfriend from the time I was in junior high until several years after I got married & she got married. For some reason, we ended up going our separate ways. She was at my fathers funeral & right after that, I was at her fathers funeral. Both our families had also been best friends also....grew out of our friendship. We went camping together....spent vacations together...basically lived at each others houses.

I had my career & she had her biology instructor career at the junior college. Her husband wasn't a very social person & only wanted to socialize with people who had the same interests as he did (masters in biology....my girlfriend also had her masters in biology & teaches at one of the local California junior colleges). I heard through my mother talking to her mother that they had moved to a nice new house......we had already moved into our new house miles away. For some reason, all communications stopped at a point I can't even define. I don't wonder if it was something I did, since I wasn't aroung to do anything. I always wonder how she is...it's hard not to after all those years of being like sisters. But I have to realize that it's over & there is nothing I can do about it.

I chanced to send her an email at her email address at the junior Colleve but no reaponse....so don't know if it got lost, or that she saw it & chose not to respond. Relationships aren't something we can force. We have to accept it for what it is....whether it's because of illness or any of the other 100.s of reasons....it's just a very sad fact of life that we can't controll.....so there are times we just have to leg to & this is one of those times. If it is a relationship that is meant to be, then it will happen in the long run & she will be the one to come around.

I know this isn't the answer you would like to have, but sometimes, we don't want to hear what probably is true,
Debbie

I wish you peace in getting through & over the hurt you are feeling.