I am still profoundly depressed, trying to get better, but find myself crying still every day. It's a grief I never expected, never knew people go through when their spouse has had an affair. So, I have some questions regarding my husband's treatment of his girlfriend as compared to how he treats me. He says he ended the affair early March.

I found out because I found a cell phone he'd actually given to me since I didn't have one, but he forgot to delete about 3 days of text messages between them. I am STILL in shock after 3 months of having found out. He claims he's told me all, but I doubt it. Why should I believe anything he says?

Anyway, I'll keep this short and to the point... In an affair, when he calls her babe and she calls him sweetheart, when they are texting each other from early morning, nearly on wake up untilthey go to sleep at night, see each other for sex about twice a month.... she asking to be the ONLY woman in his life, ... he telling her, everything is going to be OK, she says why and he replies, "because that's the end game", in addition he tells her it would be good IF she was the only woman...... is it your opinion that they were IN LOVE with each other and intended to be togethor... fulltime and permanently??? btw.. he has NEVER called me "babe" or "sweetheart", nothing romantic in years.

Does that sound like a love affair or "just sex" affair like he is telling me?