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Originally Posted by shezbut
I finally found a man that treats me decently. He cares about me. Treats me with utmost respect & caring. How do I feel?
Scared as hell! I'm fighting my "instincts" to push him away. I'm 45 y.o., he's my age too. We're too old to be playing against that devilish side of me.  I am trying to take it slowly, but that seems to go against my "instincts" as well! What in the world am I to do?
He is jumping right in with me....I don't want to hurt him, nor do I want to mess things up for myself.
I'm bouncing all over the place. One minute, I'm excited and turned on by Bill. Next minute, and I have a ball of anxiety in my tummy. Ugggh! |
That sounds familiar to me. Anytime a good guy was interested in me, I'd mess it up with all my phobias and anxieties. I'm soon to be 58 and I never let anything become too close, except for my friendship with my one real life friend. (And my other friends in the 80s and part of the 90s.)
So, my advice? Give it a chance to see if you can get over all these heightened emotions. Maybe they will pass naturally (that's what I'd think could happen). Just let it develop how it should. Don't be too up and too down. Try to get it on an even keel and be grateful to any higher power for the experience. You're not too old to fall in love.
