My ex wouldn't leave the house, either. He also tried to physically force me to stay.

I think he wanted to stay because he wanted to remain in a luxury home. He didn't want to change/downgrade his lifestyle and lose the image he projected to the world...being successful and never at fault. Someone others would admire and making me look like at fault by "deserting" him. He craves sympathy. He likes being a victim. Still does but not my problem anymore.

Like you, I saw my daughter less as it was more stable for her to be at home. I fled to our vacation home an hour away. I did see her, but less at first. My lawyer was instrumental in changing this issue.

Your time with your son will change. It will improve. Having less time in the beginning with my daughter was very hard. Tell him regularly you love him and he will see you more soon.

It will improve for you. Your son will thrive after adapting to the changes if you let him be a child and not an instrument against his father. Your son will be in a better place after this settles down. Keep that in your mind's eye.

Taking care of you right now is paramount. It is top priority for you. Your son will reap the rewards on you taking care of you. Putting you first may seem selfish, but it isn't. Your son will benefit. Making everything about putting the child first is a common statement. IMO, this puts the responsibility on the child and is unhealthy. Let him do his job, which is being a child. My T helped guide me through this.

You are a strong, intelligent woman. It will get better. PM me if you need support.