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Jul 30, 2016, 08:21 AM
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Artchic, I have read many of your threads about meeting with these men you meet online, and it seems to me that after you meet them you fixate on them and think of nothing else but them. You ask how do you not come on too strong, and I think you need to control your expectations, not allow yourself to fantasize about outcomes with someone you don't really know just yet, and occupy yourself with the things that make you happy instead of staying up late focused on a person you don't really know.
Being busy and having other things to do will actually make you more attractive to the prospective mate. You need to bring your own happiness to a relationship and not expect someone else to fill a hole in your life.
I'm also a little wary that he asked you to pay for your own dinner, but I don't know that it means anything.
Good luck.
Seesaw
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Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
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