((((Min)))) My heart goes out to you. An oncologist on top of all your other health concerns sounds frightful. I can't not mention that there's crisis lines to call if you are in a desperate need or call emergency 911.

As far as planning to leave, do you have access to your own money and bank account? Is he physically hurting you? Do you have friends back home to reach out to or extended family? Are you familiar with emotional detachment? Sometimes even though we can't completely disconnect from a toxic environment, we can take steps that lessen the emotions involved, can be in a loving way(noted to reduce the confusion that's typical upon initial consideration of many).

I'm sorry that when you did reach out for help you experienced what you did. Were you also speaking with a counselor at the time? Who referred you to a psychiatrist in the first place?

I hope today is a little better. Please stay safe.