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Old Jul 30, 2016, 04:01 PM
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I'm so sorry you are going through this, WC.
Anniversaries can be so hard. Do you feel that the looking for new information is therapeutic for you? (I can't say I wouldn't do this too, but I'd also wonder if it might be poking a bear with a stick.) Are you seeing a therapist? (Sorry if I've missed that elsewhere.)

It is important to treasure our loved ones while we may. Thank you for that reminder.

May you come through this time as smoothly as possible. Be gentle with yourself. Sending much
Hi Innerzone,

Great questions! Thanks!

I have asked myself if its a good idea. I feel torn about this. I have talked with others and there is a common sense of duty amongst many of us to know that the history of this loss/traumatic incident is properly remembered. It's definitely an eye-opener about the media's need to continue on about details. Some of us have written previous letters to the new agencies posting additional detailed photos, asking them to use a lot of discretion in choosing photos and to consider the survivors when they do so.

Just this afternoon, the exposure to the gallery of photos had first made me very sad and I also felt some rage at the media.

However, within a couple of hours, I felt an incredible amount of compassion for myself, as a child, having seen all of those same pictures first hand, over and over again as a child. I now better understand what it was like for me then and I had little to no healthy "coping tools" then.
I simply had to leave the house if I did not want to hear/see the ongoing coverage.

I am thankful to have many more coping strategies in my repertoire now.

Yes, I do see a therapist on a regular basis. He knows this is the "anniversary time." We have just talked about this. I have been processing this with friends today.

I've gained some added insight and some added self-compassion this afternoon. I believe things continue to come up for resolution and we do our best, at any given time, to face and to learn whatever we can learn, fear so often obstructing the process. I feel very fortunate to be able to turn this around some into learning more today about how this event has affected me then and has affected me since.

Lots of Love and Gratitude,

WC
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