T and I discussed couples therapy and we came to the conclusion that couples work should be with a different T, not him.

He said that he thought it was important that I have a safe place to be. sigh

He said that if he validated my husbands position on something during couples work and that upset me, it could affect our relationship and it was a valid concern.

Of course it took me the entire session and lots of writhing and ummming and who knows what else to get that out.