I agree - I've only had sex once and it wasn't planned and I was very uncomfortable and not feeling it. We all have wants and needs and communication is a big thing there - it's when you're most vulnerable and finding someone you really trust and care for on many levels is a big thing. That's how I'm taking it all now. I'm certainly not in any rush. If it takes me years, that's fine. I want it to be something I share with someone special, as cliche as that may sound. I'm very shy and private about intimacy. I don't see any point with casual, meaningless sex though if that works for someone then that's great.