You are & have been so wise....with your finances not letting her spend money you didn't have & this final statement. Yes, we get so bogged down in the forest, we can't see the forest for the trees.

I left my bad marriage 9 years ago....moved 2100 miles away when I finally had the chance. Walked out leaving most everything including some cloths & most everything else accumulated in the 33 year marriage.

It wasn't until a few years ago, time, space, living around normal people to understand what normal really is & wonderful therapy that I have been able to analyze & understand what actually caused the marriage to fail from the beginning.

I had heard for so long that you can't run away from yiur problems because you bring them with you...so I wondered why the only problems that kept occurring kept coming from him & realized that I was the one still cleaning up the messes he made & that I wasn't having problems communicating with the normal people who were now touching my life. I started to realize that I was capable of learning how to communicate with normal people & the issue wasn't mine. Lots or research & understanding it's taken to integrate my past with my present to understand myself, why I made the choices I did when I did, but the future is bright & I now LOVE my life & can honestly emotionally connect with those around me after learning what it honestly felt to emotionally connect & communicate with normal people.

There is hope & it is amazing that the anger can really go away.