I was extremely irritable and agitated on Wellbutrin XL. I definitely did not feel like myself at all....it was a big change. I was on 300 mg. Reducing it to 150 mg made things more manageable (for a short period of time), so sometimes that can make all the difference for certain people. It also increased my anxiety level significantly, and eventually mania. Even for people who are not Bipolar, I do often hear the same complaints you've mentioned to be associated with Wellbutrin XL. This doesn't mean stressors can't be complicating your situation and contributing to the effects, but it could be the medication as well...so I think it's good to be aware of this, just in case.