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Originally Posted by Trace14
I agree that we are not responsible for others feelings or actions but we don't have to add to their misery. And if they want ,and will accept help, we can help them. It's all up to them really.
As bad as my situation is, there are people that have it worse off, maybe not in my opinion but it's what they feel and identify with. Especially teenagers, very small things seem to be the end of the world for them. Break ups, not getting a good grade, not being good in sports, being gay or questioning their sexual identity.
But as adults we look at those things and say those are not that bad...but it is for a teenager for some reason. I investigated a lot of teen age deaths for these very reasons. very sad.
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I think I understand. I am also a caretaker and a vigilant protector.
While we are not responsible for others' feelings, it does not harm anyone to extend ourselves if we have the energy to do so and if doing so does no harm.
You did set some parameters by addressing the issue and then by asking her to not talk with you about the incident.
I also try to help others understand when they have little to no insight into how their own behaviors may be hurtful to me or to someone else. We can usually come to a clear understanding, can reach forgiveness and salvage our friendship or mutual positive regard for having reached out with mutual compassion.
WC