I am discovering a sad fact that, if you try to help someone see the sickening realities of the horrible parenting they received from their obviously inadequate parents, the victim will TURN ON YOU and attempt to either punish you or at least discredit you - BUT NOT THEIR PARENTS!
My late wife just passed away and, while trying to show one of her kids how my wife had failed her and the other kid, she became extremely hysterical and jumped into all manner of abusive, irrational and utterly senseless counter attacks and vile accusations against me. She reacted as if I had said the critical things that her mother had mentioned to me! She began attacking the messenger (me) rather than the message. I thought I was doing the confused daughter a favor by sharing the truth with her. It blew my mind that she somehow decided that I, not her mother, was the bad one here! It was as though her "saint" mother would have NEVER said critical things about her kids so, I must either be LYING or trying to make trouble. I came to realize that I'd better just shut up about what my late wife shared with me and allow her kids and others in the family to remain safely lost in their ignorance and denial rather than bring out the truths that I now know.
What a lesson! I would have thought folks would appreciate the TRUTH yet I've seen over and over how so many folks prefer leaving their heads stuck in the sands of DENIAL!
Oh well.........to each his own............