I think it's over. I've been married for 10 years, have 2 small kids and I'm considering divorce. What brought me to this conclusion? Well, our 10 years has some happy memories, but as I look back most of it seems like it was a series of fighting and making up and fighting and making up. We recently went to counseling for about 9 months, and it seemed to have a positive effect on our relationship and helped see the love beneath the rubble but not long after we were back at square one. Frankly I'm tired and emotionally worn out. Bit of relationship background, my husband was found to be unfaithful to me over the course my 2 pregnancies. This was devastating and i don't think we ever fully recovered. He went to sex addiction counseling and I went to support therapy. 4.5 years post trauma, we've moved cities, started a new life, have good jobs, the kids are happy and settled. My trust and feelings for him never fully came back. We tried, damn it we tried but strife and bitterness always seemed to rear its ugly head. Most recently we have been short with one another. He works 14 hours days 6-7 days/week during the summer and I am working full time as well. We got In a fight about something small 2 weeks ago and it has snowballed out of control. He has decided that he is not happy to come home to me anymore, so he has been out late nights with coworkers till 3-4am and didn't come home until 8-9am a couple times. I found out he went out for dinner with a female ex coworker behind my back. I'm not happy with any of this and frankly after all these years of work we are still at this place. I don't think I have it in me to keep going. We are at a stand off. I'm saying his behavior is unacceptable and he is saying he is sick of never being forgiven and judged from me. I'm at a loss, I just don't think I have it in me anymore.