Well, if it comes to her not wanting contact again, you can deal with that as it comes. Have some grace with yourself, as in, how would you talk to a friend in the same situation? You would tell them to be kind to themselves and to let her have space and take time to heal wouldn't you? I know I certainly would.
Just take each day as it comes, keep respecting her wish to be alone, and start working on making yourself happy again. Just little things, small victories to take pride in etc until you are back on your feet. You never know, that may be what she is waiting for anyhow. And once you're on your feet, if she still doesn't want to talk, it won't hurt as much and you can just keep moving forward *hugs*