confused, this sounds like a great direction in therapy. It is so hard to share feelings when we are not used to. Anger is the difficult one for me, but a few weeks ago I was able to get angry at T for the first time, and it was a good experience. Right now I am struggling a bit with how to share positive feelings with him (he has reassured me several times it is OK to smile when I am with him
), as we have focused up until now on feelings like sadness, fear, and hopelessness. Just start small, and share little things with associated feelings. Maybe starting with sharing positive feelings would be easier for you? Like "yesterday I felt happy because..."
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when I am mad, I just walk away and keep walking until I calm down, and then I bury it and forget about it.........
</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">That sounds kind of like me. And it reminds me how yesterday, after my daughter's therapy session, she was telling me she was angry at her therapist. I asked if she had told her. No. And I told her it was OK if she was angry at her T, that they expect that. And she should feel free to tell her T this. She was very resistant. I told her I had been angry at my T before, and she was really curious about this. She said, so you got mad and threw his table across the room and then stomped out the door? I said no, I told him I was angry and why and we talked about it. She said, if you were mad, why didn't you just leave? Because that wouldn't have helped me work through the anger, and that is part of why I go to therapy. I could tell by her reaction that she had never thought of this before. She said you should just leave. I said I would never do that to my therapist, because he is like a good friend to me, and you don't walk out on good friends. She was kind of thoughtful, kind of rejecting of this information too. So I don't know if she is ready to share anger with her T, but I think it was a big step forward just that she could tell
me that she is angry at her T. Anyway, confused4ever, I think having difficulty expressing anger at one's therapist is common. Just try some small steps at first.
Good luck!