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Originally Posted by Becoming
I'm getting scared she won't want to me mend it. It's been over two weeks now. Granted, I've been a little pushy in those two weeks. Yet she's still nasty and unwillingly to talk about it with the mutual friend even. I guess though the best thing is to tell the mutual friend to leave her alone too. The last thing I did was have that friend send the letter (digitally over Facebook), but I don't even know if my ex read it. It just had apologies and my desire to mend things. The friend saw it too and ensured her it was safe to read. We don't know why she's acting in this way.
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This is one of the worst things about relationships and loving people. Sometimes we have no clue what they're thinking or why/how/where things have gone so wrong. When all you can do is wait and hope, it's enough to drive you up the wall (or into sending a bunch of text messages, showing up on someone's doorstep, etc). It could be your ex has other things going on with her that are affecting her feelings and behavior. I would tell your friend to let your ex have her space for now.
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Originally Posted by Becoming
And I get what you mean about that. I may just get rid of it. Or for now put it away/hide it until I decide that's really what I want to do.
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No harm in putting it away and keeping it for a while, just in case.
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Originally Posted by Becoming
Also...I suck because I took off work again today. It's mostly because of emotional pain and partially because of psychical. Although I'm thinking a lot of the emotional is causing the psychical. And sorry if tmi, but to make matters worse I have my time of the month. Ugh. I am like ruining my life/halting it because of a break up.
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My dear, I have called in while a sobbing, hysterical mess before. Try to be gentle and understanding with yourself. This is a very painful, very distressing time for you, and most of us would be hard-pressed to show up at work like nothing had happened, especially without taking any time off. Breakups and relationship issues are our kryptonite. I'm sorry that you're feeling physically ill on top of it all.
Try to rest and do something distracting yet soothing. I find gaming helps me when my mind just won't stop screaming. Takes some of the pressure off, even if you don't ever really "forget".