This is one of the worst things about relationships and loving people. Sometimes we have no clue what they're thinking or why/how/where things have gone so wrong. When all you can do is wait and hope, it's enough to drive you up the wall (or into sending a bunch of text messages, showing up on someone's doorstep, etc). It could be your ex has other things going on with her that are affecting her feelings and behavior. I would tell your friend to let your ex have her space for now.


No harm in putting it away and keeping it for a while, just in case.


My dear, I have called in while a sobbing, hysterical mess before. Try to be gentle and understanding with yourself. This is a very painful, very distressing time for you, and most of us would be hard-pressed to show up at work like nothing had happened, especially without taking any time off. Breakups and relationship issues are our kryptonite. I'm sorry that you're feeling physically ill on top of it all. Try to rest and do something distracting yet soothing. I find gaming helps me when my mind just won't stop screaming. Takes some of the pressure off, even if you don't ever really "forget".

Oh, and try to be cautious about making any major changes in your life while you're dealing with this situation. It may cause more stress or be something you regret after things have settled a bit.