Sister, sounds like a good solution. As you know, my husband and I have been for couples therapy with my T before. Nine sessions, in fact. I was in therapy for 7 months with T before we did couples. T gave me all the warnings of what might happen (along the lines of what your T said), and he also said it does not work for everyone because some clients cannot tolerate his having a relationship with their spouse after they have been exclusive with him. It has the potential to feel like betrayal, and is not for everyone. At first, I knew I would never do this, but then changed my mind. It has worked out, but has potential pitfalls, which we have navigated successfully but not without some angst. I think it has actually brought me and T closer, and I wouldn't have predicted that. I think it also takes a T with certain training and experience to pull this off successfully. I think the partner in the counseling might also have some difficulties with the arrangement. I have wondered if my husband ever felt like somehow the sessions weren't fair or equal because I had this prior relationship with T. He never voiced this concern, but I've wondered. It helped that he liked T so much.

sister, I am glad you know what will and won't work for you. Sounds like such a good discussion. Now you can move forward with your plans for couples therapy without these concerns about your relationship with your T. Will your T recommend couples therapists to you? Will you and your husband both be involved in finding the couples therapist?Good luck with that.