Thank you for the response. Actually, it has been pretty therapuetic just putting it out here. I have really been trying to get at the root of the problem. I used to think that my Dad was kinda harsh with my Mom, but I have come to realize he was this way because it was the only way he knew how to deal with her HPD.

Just meaning he would say things like "..okay thats enough wallowing" and she would stop playing the victim. It really just gives me more of an appreciation of him.