Hey all! Hope you're all doing well! I've written on here about my grandma and how she sexually abused me as a kid. I was also molested by someone else and my grandmother convinced my mother not to confront the person. This all happened around the same time, when I was 5. She was also quite emotionally abusive (which I admittedly have a hard time recovering from). I go to therapy, just in case anyone was wondering.

I also mentioned on here that my mother knows about all of this but she is in denial. She doesn't believe it was that bad.

I currently live with my mother and grandmother and it's been...Well, it kinda suck to be honest. I love my mother to death. I always will and I will always be forever grateful for everything she does and has done for me.

What is driving me up a wall, however, is how my mother dismisses everything my grandma does as nothing. Ever since my grandma learned I'm gay, she's been asking me intrusive questions about my sex life and saying how she's ashamed of me and she thinks I'm sick. She's said a bunch of different things but those things stick out. Instead my mom laughs and tells me, "You have to get your grandma out of your head" and she says how I have to ignore my grandmother. I don't understand how I can do that, knowing and remembering every abusive thing she's done and is currently doing.

My mother is being very passive about all of this, the abuse, the homophobia, everything. It's making me angry but it also saddens me and makes me feel really invalidated. I was dealing with everything as a kid when I was molested and I'm dealing with it alone now.

I'm getting my masters degree at the end of this year so I'm hoping I can find a job right after, save up, and move out.

How do I deal with my mother's passiveness? Am I wrong in my feelings? Am I the problem?

This was hard to write...I could really use some advice, please. Thanks a lot in advance.