I'm starting to have a reaction to what happened last week. I'm feeling the beginning of resentment. I don't remember where I saw it, but the words "passive dependent" or something like that hit a nerve.

The whole reason I got involved was that my cousin called to tell me that my sister was sounding whacky. Without thinking, I jumped in and took responsibility.

My mother made me her caretaker in her living will without asking me if I wanted to do it. My sister made me her in case of emergency person without asking me.

And if I try to keep a distance, other people in their lives make me feel guilty.

I guess I keep covering the same territory. It's hard to balance caring about someone else and protecting my boundaries.

When my sister is "well" she's hostile. When she's sick, she doesn't heap the guilt on me.

It's a pattern with her. If she doesn't get what she wants, she causes a crisis in which she has to be rescued. The more I try to protect myself from her, the more she fixates on me. I feel like I'm being stalked.

She wants me to be her own private psychologist because I'm able to listen and say supportive things. But there's a reason therapy sessions only last an hour. They're exhausting.

Whaa! Whaa! Whaa! Thanks again for listening.----Can someone move this thread to general discussion? I don't think it belongs here.