abuse usually gets worse, over time. if after first meeting him he's already showing these severely aggressive signs, I honestly would fear for your life if you actually moved and stayed with this man. A new relationship that is positive usually means both people are really in love, putting their best foot forward, etc. So if this is his best, what happens when that goes away and he's fully being himself? Something to think about.

Also the note about already feeling like you can't live without him, and this, an abusive man...