You can still have a life & have someone also......since you had a life already you know how to get there. Sounds almost like it went from him being clingy to you being that way once you got married? Maybe what you expected out of marriage wasn't really what he grew to expect?

Marriage is always difficult. It would be good if you could be friends again. You never know if it's possible to reignite the spark that was once there & start on a new more agreed upon path for the 2 of you.

I'm glad he feels that friend feeling for you right now because by the time our marriage ended (33 years) I had realized the last 13 years that I would never even pick a friend like the person my H was.