Its been a long time for me too. Most of my life Ive been avoiding challenges, feeling safe in my comfort zone. I havent a had a girlfriend in high school or later. Im reading this book called Six pillars of self-esteem which is really interesting. Its about self-acceptance, self-love, integrity and lots of other stuff I never new a healthy self-esteem requires. I think Im on the right path, I want to change my life. Someone said...to change your outer world you must first change your inner world...so thats what Im doing.