Thanks Ladies,

It sounds like I have some thinking to do on the best approach, I do like the one emotion at a time, it is way less confusing. Anger is a huge issue with me, not letting it come out at all. I have found myself getting angry at him in session, but I just stuff it back down, occasionally he will get a NO out of me, one time I asked him if he was being sarcastic!!

I have the same issue Perna with dissappointment, and things not getting done that I ask......then I get upset and just do them myself. I never realized that it is a connection to growing up. My mom was the same way as your step mom was. Do it now.....and we always had alot to do.