He didn't so much make a suggestion as he said that my concerns were realistic, and then provided the example (of validating hubby) that could occur. He said he has seen it go both ways but that if I was worried then we should find someone else to do the couples therapy. T will help us find someone else.

We aren't in a rush, my husband is willing and we will see someone we both agree on. Funny enough, my husband also felt that we should maybe see someone different for both of the same reasons (that he didn't want T to take my side and that he was worried about upsetting my therapy).

I just know I would wind up pissed off at T and then I would feel I had no place to go with my worries.

BIG BREATH OF RELIEF

Of course, T looks at me and says, "Well, why didn't you just say that?" Argggg Famous last words. That gave rise to a whole 'nother conversation about my difficulty in expressing my needs. yeah

Dang.