First off, I think that your ex making it a priority that you buy things for her is selfish. Definitely not something to be critical to the relationship. Dodged a bullet, good job.

I have to say all women aren't in a rush. What rush do you mean? Some women in approaching 30 want to marry and have children. If that's the issue you're talking about and don't like that - don't date women that age that have never married and are childless.

For example, I'm divorced with one child. I'm in a very serious relationship. That said, I absolutely will never remarry or have more kids. My boyfriend feels the same. Win-win.

Sex needs to be consenual. It doesn't matter how soon it happens if it's consensual. However, if you only want a sexual fling - it's respectful to let her know beforehand. Leading a woman on to get sex isn't something that's a good idea. At least for her, it's hurtful, to say the least.

You say you have a really bad wandering eye? You can control that. Don't obviously check other women out when you're with a woman. And women don't like to be leered at. It's creepy to us. You can work on this. Your eye doesn't have a mind of its own!

Is that the rush you mean? Or a rush for an exclusive commitment? I may not ha e anything to add there. I like to see how things play out naturally. If a guy and I didn't want the same thing, I'd move on. There are a lot of women like that. I think you may be stereotyping us a bit. =]

Dare, make new friends. Enter a relationship when you are ready and find someone special. It doesn't mean it's forever. There's no rule book. Have fun! Get skills through therapy if you need help in this area and you can also process past trauma - you deserve that. Try to find a T that works on a sliding scale. You may be able to afford it.