I just keep getting the message that I didn't have it bad, that others have it worse...

Someone suggested I "reframe" a brother laughing about getting beaten. "My brother has a sense of humour?"

Others have told me to be "truly grateful and see abundance rather than scarcity" and "At least it wasn't X."

Someone close to me told me to "snap out of it" and "stop wallowing."

I feel I'm just being told by people my pain doesn't matter, that I should quit whining because I've never experienced anything "bad enough", since "bruises were common. Now people report when there's only a mark!" and "Now words are abuse now".