That's interesting because my boyfriend told me I looked "cute" once. I was pissed lol
He goes with better words now. I know what you mean. I told him I didn't want to be "cute." Tell your girl.

Also do mention her appearance. Tell her she looks gorgegous with her hair done, makeup, nice clothes. My boyfriend likes that, too. I don't dress up every day. I do wear makeup but that's for me as much as him. I wear jeans a lot. He likes me in them. I don't do sweatpants or stuff like that.

Tell her you want to be sexy in her eyes. You don't like cute. Ask her if she wants any changes from you. You do sound put-together but it doesn't hurt to ask.

The stores sell so many "yoga pants" and lougewsar nowadays. It is in style. It's easy to fall into it. Especially when some people think it's stylish because Victoria's Secret makes some with "PINK" on the rear. lol Not for me.

Now you could surprise her with a gift certificate there for lingerie =]. Get a little dominate, too. See where that goes.

Sometimes my boyfriend doesn't shave daily. Shaved daily is my preference. If he gets too scruffy, I give him a head's up and he shaves. No biggie.

You are correct it's best to keep communication flowing. She will know your needs and vice-versa. And people's actions speak louder than words.

Her dressing up to study with that guy doesn't mean anything. Women dress up under those circumstances for self-esteem purposes, IMO.