Thank you for this. I beat myself up a lot and struggle with a lot of self-esteem issues, so I can definitely relate. Taking a shower or bath and putting on some favorite lotion and lighting candles/incense are all things I do too In fact, I use vanilla lotion too....including the one at Bath and Body Works! I feel that I need to start reading more positive affirmations again. I really like reading quotes and looking on Pinterest for some for inspiration.