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Originally Posted by Wild Coyote
I think it's likely you initially stuff some anger and may later explode?
Maybe I'm projecting my own willingness to stuff, even to initially deny, anger.
If we can catch it early on, it might not brew into something bigger?
This is where anger management might be helpful?
No matter our diagnoses, we cope better recognizing and managing our emotions, including anger/frustration -- the earlier the better.
I remember when you were feeling overwhelmed by the noise and generalized commotion in the house. You were immediately very remorseful, once you'd vented within the household. I recall you'd gone as far as staying with your brother one night.
I also think its possible for you and your bf to have a viable plan when you are feeling overwhelmed by noise, etc.
Having room to learn some emotional regulation skills does not make anyone a bad person.
Self-compassion is usually the most difficult. Yet, what would you say to your best friend if he/she told you how they were suffering when feeling overwhelmed and had tipped over the stool?
WC |
Yea I did stay away one night. My pdoc always tells me how self aware I am. But maybe not enough in this time. I knew enough to keep in my bedroom that day I know that. But once kids start slamming my doors and screaming when I share walls with neighbors, I get pissed. The problem is I get mad to the point where I act out before thinking whereas I probably should of trusted my bf to take care of the situation. I have my good days with the kids and I'll take them places and other days I just cant cope. Just last week I had my bf and his ex (who I'm friendly with now) come up with a plan where him and I had the house alone with him not at work for a day. This is something i need in our relationship. Time alone. And then we had the kids the days after but the day off was needed. Usually I'm here alone for four days while he works third shift and then BAM we have both kids for three days and we get no time to just be with eachother. That bothers me. But hopefully we can work on our schedules with his ex where he gets a day to sleep in and then just adult time with me. Our alone time, we'll go out to eat and then just chill in the living room with a few drinks, music and adult time. That's what we need as a couple and me as MI.
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