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Originally Posted by Wild Coyote
Great plan! 
That time for the two of you alone is a healthy plan.
Is it possible for there to be some "family time" ground rules re: what types of behaviors are fine for inside the house, as you also have neighbors on your mind? Simple rules, like: no slamming doors, etc.? Children tend to do well with consistent expectations communicated clearly to them.
Maybe you bf needs to step in a little sooner with the children when you are struggling? Maybe share a code word or a specific gesture where you communicate your need for him to intervene asap?
You are a kind-hearted person. You may simply need a break during more difficult times.
WC
PS Slamming door irritate me, too. It can feel very jarring, very agitating to me at times.  |
Yes we have ground rules here. If all four of us (him,I,both kids) are all at the table then there's no electronics around. We will talk and laugh like family. But it's like once that's over, everyone goes back to their toys and games. Sometimes his one son plays two devices at a time and wants two chargers on top of it. This is usually an argument. I let my bf take care of that as we both have the same thoughts on it. We want the kids to go outside more and be productive. We just bought them nerf guns lol! Even this new Pokemon game, I'll gladly walk with the kids to find stuff. I was brought up that being active outside was healthy. It's when we're all cooped up with electronics that tempers flair. And when I'm mixed, I'll stay in my room. Everyone thinks I'm being antisocial when really I'm protecting them from my anger. Trust me, I'm not having fun hiding in my room like a werewolf. I'm just trying not to flip my lid.
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