well...this has just been my recent experience. I was seeing a guy since March and he decided in June that he couldn't give me what I wanted (time)...we were both nice about going our ways and I was very cool, didn't email or text or any of that. Well, after a month of no contact, I did send him a short friendly note to stay safe (he's a police officer)...we ended up emailing and agreed to try texting for a while. At first he didn't send me anything so...despite me not wanting to seem desperate, I did send him a good morning a couple of days after the emails. and he has since then been much better about it...we take turns sending the first one. BUT I have a couple of times waited him out and he would finally send me a good night message. Anyway, as of the last few days, he has finally decided he wants to meet up ( I thought it would take longer for him to go there and I was NOT going to be the one to ask ) and has been very friendly and flirty.

SO...even though I have wanted to not be first to say hi, as long as I kept it very light and short, he seems to be ok with it. This particular guy seems to have trouble with being close, he is VERY slow to warm up. He's very sweet, very sexy and when we do spend time together we have a very good time. So I am trying to be patient. Definitely not one of my strengths