you know at first when reading this thread I thought what the heck was this treatment provider doing by saying something like it could have been worse. then I thought more about it and realized something...

the first thing is the original posters location is not where I am so of course I can not say that this was wrong. what do I know about how Asia treats trauma...
Im in the USA not Asia. the only people that can say whether this is right or wrong is treatment providers in Asia according to Asian rules of ethics, and Asian guidelines for treating trauma victims.

the next thing I thought about was the situation itself. I dont know the ...whole...story so to speak so i dont know the context in which this was said, nor what lead up to the context of what was said. for all I know there could have been some sort of discussion around the fact that things could have been worse or better.

with out actually being there in the room witnessing the whole session I can only jump to conclusions based on an editted version of a therapy session, by that I mean what appears isnt a whole sessions worth of text, when one posts here they are paraphrasing/editting and posting only the parts of the sessions the poster wants us to read. not an audio recording of a whole session.

my point is its so easy for me to jump tot he wrong conclusion due to not having been a witness to the session nor being the posters treatment provider, nor knowing how Asian mental health system is set up...

all i can go on is ...

my own ....opinion... of whether I would want to be treated this way.
my own locations rules, ethics and treatment for trauma

based on what I can go by...I can say though to me it ....sounds...wrong if it had happened to me, I also know that sometimes treatment for trauma and many other things too is to bring the situation into logic\fact and reality rather than the emotion, because sometimes emotions can leave a person with a distorted view of their problems..

the bottom line in logic\fact and reality is that yes the problem could have been worse ...regardless of what a problem any problem is.

example say the problem is you cant find your shoes. is could be better by the shoes being in the first place you look for them, and it could have been worse because though it may take you an hour to find the shoes at least you have that pair of shoes, there are millions of people in the world that dont have shoes.

I bet in anyones life no matter what the problems are whether those problems are normal, mental or physical theres always a good side and a bad side, a better outcome and a worse outcome, life isnt this one dimensional thing where everything is neutral. whether we like it or not even in abuse\trauma there is going to be more than one side to that problem, theres going to be a good side and a worse side, and a better side.

who knows maybe this was the point that this treatment provider was trying to make. that yea the trauma happened and it could have been worse and it could have been better but this is the hand that we need to deal with kind of thing.

just my thoughts on this thread.

for actual knowing what this treatment provider meant and why it was said and whether it was right or wrong only that treatment provider can answer that therefore my suggestion is...if this continues to bother you to contact your treatment provider, they will be able to clarify why it was said and whether it violated any of your own locations rules and ethics for things your treatment provider can and cant say to you.