Dang it. The other thing that makes this whole situation really hard is that she is also a single mom, but living in a foreign country and without any support at all, family or otherwise. Management was going to speak to her (again) about the bullying situation today. I know at the heart of it she also is just a trauma survivor who is doing the best she can with her lot. Her best sucks and hurts me, but she also doesn't 'deserve' to be hurt anymore.
I wish we could all just get along and play nicely. But we can't. We react to perceived abuse and threat where really none exists apart from in our traumatic reactions. What a mess.