((bumbling))

i used to be friends with a woman with hpd...... our friendship ended because of it. i tried and tried and tried to help, to give advice but she wouldn't listen (not to mention i have my own mental health issues), and she had a totally codependent relationship with her bf, who was bipolar..... i tried the tough love approach and she severed ties with me...... hpd is a fricking horrendous disorder, the hardest to deal with that i've ever personaly come across, and i'm so sorry you're dealing with it with your mom...... i dont know what advice to offer, hpd is very hard to treat, but i offer my sympathy and want to say, i know how it feels to deal with it....... can you talk at all to your mom's new "friend"? can you explain it to him at all? if he really cares maybe he can try? i dont know, this is probably in vain, but i'm sorry for what youre going through...... pm me if you want, i will try to help if i can.......

p.s. i am sorry about your dad..... doesnt matter how long those we love have been gone, we still grieve for them.... and thats ok.....