Basically there is nothing you can say to someone in a depression that will help. The things you suggest are all doing something--and that's great if he's up for it. Which I never am. But the hugely frustrating thing for people who live with someone depressed is that there's not much that can be done. And then of course when you're depressed you know that you're exhausting the people who care for you and you can't do anything about it and that makes everything worse.

Sorry. That's really down. Are there things you can say to people you're with all the time that will make them feel better?