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Old Aug 04, 2016, 06:50 PM
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Originally Posted by Trace14 View Post
As you can see from my posts I'm dealing with some of the same things. Almost in the same time frames. So I do get you. My last trauma that really started the deluge of memories was finding Dad after his suicide, then all these other traumas started flashing in my head like an old time projector, flash, flash, flash, then it stops on one, like a still frame. It gets worse when I close my eyes to sleep or try meditation. It overpowers any attempt to think deeply on anything, or read in depth.
There's got to be an answer out there. We just have to find it. Thank goodness you found someone who specializes in CPTSD. There's no one around here that does that. There are some with PTSD experience but that's not the same.
I figure we may not get completely out of this. But if we can at least get it to be less controlling over our lives that would be okay. How do you feel about that? I mean memories will always be in our heads, but if we can neutralize their strength, I think we could function some what. Just a thought.
First of all, I am very sorry your dad took his life and even more sorry you'd found him. (((((( Trace ))))))

I don't know how one would get over something like that, Trace.

(My dad took his own life and I was on the other end of the phone, but I did not see him at all. I was too far away. Thankfully. I was 12 y.o.)

Isn't the "old time projector" thing odd?
I was just trying to describe that phenomenon to my husband.

I feel you are being realistic. Let things fade with time. Work to neutralize as much as possible. Are you aware of Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.? He is quite an expert. There are a few other, as well.

I have a great therapist. He is honest about his limitations. He's honest about mine, too. Yet, he remains somewhat hopeful.

Thanks for your feedback.

To our healing,


WC
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Trace14