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thankyou mouse, I think you're so right and very wise. I should have gone to get hubby out of bed as he works nights, but I keep putting it off. I just want to be alone. My therapist and cpn said the same as you about it taking time. I managed to find my family a counsellor, He is coming for the second time on Friday, he lets them rant or talk and just generally helps them deal with this.

thanks again, Kerry xoxoxox