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Originally Posted by frackfrackfrack
Hmm - he doesn't seem to want to get laid, he prefers to stick to therapy. After two sexually dead long term relationships over 8 years and 2 years of this with the therapist, I wonder sometimes, where to I find all these men who are so attracted to me and yet have such iron willpower not to take any action.
How does one become confident about whether this is an obsession or not?
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For me it's confidence in my own boundaries. If my boundaries (which are rigid as it gets) start dissolving, then I know I'm slipping away from me and more into obsession. But if my boundaries are standing firm, I can still tell right from wrong and have the confidence to stand up for what I believe in (in opposition to Mr Hot) - then I know I can go enjoy myself and not be taken advantage of.