Hi, Goldi. I don't think we can just "get over" traumatizing events. They stick around and nibble at our unconscious and thoughts despite our best intentions and thoughts that they shouldn't be any big deal. There shouldn't be any shoulds/shouldn'ts! Those are from outside of us, someone else says we shouldn't, not us.

It is up to you where to go with this, I think your T just wants to know what you want, whether you want to pursue it at this time. You could do a little work on other things and come back to it or not cover it at all, he just wants to know, you're in charge. I had a sexual problem and never mentioned it to my T but then "had" to because I referred to it and confused my T and either had to straighten her out about it and tell her or "lie" and leave her confused and that would have wrecked our relationship. So, I told her and she reacted a bit like your T, was thoughtful for a moment then stated how she thought we both were surprised at it coming up :-) and suggested we did not need to discuss it (which we didn't and both agreed on). That your T was able to guess your secret so soon implies you were "telling" him something unconsciously so it might be a good idea to explore it a bit. If it truly didn't bother you he probably wouldn't have been able to guess it? Like Mouse said, anything that bothers us is ours/big/important and worthy of discussing with T.