I found out 7 years into it. I had no idea....and he didn't even stick up for me.... She didn't know he was with me for at that point 10 years.... I was devastated... I didn't know who the hell I was sleeping with for all these years... It got worse.....he gave me something......hpv. I had no reason to think anything. Omg looking back it just makes me so pissed that I didn't see.... One of his co workers told me..... Knew me...and knew her.. She was common. I never will give full trust to someone...I was a complete wreck for a year plus. He acted like nothing.... And I can't say I'm fixed. There's a hole in my soul....Doubt is the the worst thing that I've seen people go through. When it leads you to seeing betrayal..I can't think of a more cruel thing for men to do... Is it that hard to just tell me? He didn't come clean for a while...I even called the woman... I say woman.... Much older.....cursed me out..... My first instinct was to drive the two hours and mop the floor with her ***....neither one of them were worth it. My mother said living well was the best revenge. It kills him to know who told me more than the fact he even did it. I deserved better than him. I said he was less than half the man my dad was and I'd be ashamed if my father were alive and saw what I'd settled for. It hurts it sucks yes. I hurt for what seemed like forever.. I cried all night some nights...it does get better. I promise