My senses are mine and wholly about me. To know how another perceives me, I have to ask them and then compare their answer with what I sense and discuss it with them. Otherwise, it's wholly my thinking and feelings, in my own head with no feedback to correct any distortions. I can choose to go with that but there's the possibility that I will have it wrong or miss a key bit of information (they scowled when looking at me because they like my nose and hate their own :-) and miss out on developing a relationship or at least feeling better about myself, feeling it's not "Me" but the other person with the problem and having confirmation of a sort.