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Originally Posted by CassyO
I wonder that too. In my mind the bruises and welts my mum left on me as a 6 /7 year old constituted abuse. It was when I pointed that out to my mum that she stopped hitting us (mostly), so I guess she thinks so too. I've never spoken to anyone about it except my sister a few months ago (and now on here!) and my sister just thinks Im over reacting to a 'couple of wallops' and Im an awful person trying to make our mum look bad.
What makes me stand firm about the mum stuff though, is that I have DID. That doesn't happen with a couple of wallops. And if you are suffering from Trauma inflicted MH issues too, then I think you can be confident that the welts and bruises you and your brother experienced are abuse?
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Holy hell, my older sister thinks I'm over-reacting too and she got hit worse than me. She says our parents are good parents and that our mother is a "good, loving mother."
I don't know how to express this (afraid I'll come across as clumsy, rude, awkward, condescending) - I'm glad you tried speaking to your sister (but absolutely not glad she dismissed you) and on PC about this. It takes courage, especially because there's always the fear that you'll be dismissed.
I am...angry that your sister thinks you're over-reacting because you're right - DID doesn't happen with "a couple of wallops". I've searched extensively for case studies involving corporal punishment in my Asian country (because corporal punishment is seen as traditional like how it is in some parts of the USA) and one thing I've read is - people can absolutely develop DID "just" from being switched/caned/beaten. One does not need to have been burned, had bones broken, or suffered violent sexual abuse to develop DID.
Saying this because very often in my country, people say corporal punishment is nothing and "good for you" and "kids these days have no respect because we stopped caning them" and it's "just" a beating...so I spent more than a year trying to dig up case studies where corporal punishment was the main cause of someone's PTSD, DID etc.
I know I strongly believe my generalised anxiety disorder and social anxiety disorder comes from what I experienced growing up (even if my experiences might not meet legal criteria in my nation...) -- because it's rooted in me feeling worthless, defective, bad due to those experiences.